Respect earned or gained?
Way back when I was just starting out in playing MMO’s, I had no idea what a guild leader even was back then. I was working some really crazy hours back then so I couldn’t do much with friends, because when I was free they were sleeping or vise-versa.
I had just found a game that I liked to play and keep my spare time occupied at the odd hours that I was awake. Now as I look back I was borderline addicted to that game, spending way too much time in it.
As I began to learn more about the game I began working on more advanced talents, I was even asked to help the development team with being on a panel and acting as a play representative for my class. This game was my whole life.
Let’s start a guild!
As I progressed, I meet a cool group of people, we played together daily and this is where the first notion of guild came up. We all agreed that we should start a guild to pool our resources together. So we planned it out, but no one wanted to lead the group. So put it up to a vote, everyone was in the pool.
Even though then I didn’t want to lead, I was voted in a guild leader by two votes. My number two officer (Executive Officer or XO) was decided for me by the voting also. So I had no choice in the matter.
Me and the XO didn’t see eye to I we bumped heads a lot almost to the point that we both quit playing the game. Finally I had enough of this and I had it out with him, by telling him either we start working together or not at all, I’m done with this.
I started by saying I didn’t want this job but is was given to me from the people who trusted me, so I’m not letting them down.
We grew up!
Somehow everything from that point on changed for the better. It was like we were always on the same page and the guild began to blossom into a very large guild that was full of people always willing to lend a hand by following our lead.
I’m not sure if had gained his respect or earned, but I don’t really care. Today we are very close friends and we have met in real life several times.
When you’re a guild leader you are a part of something bigger, you need to start thinking for the group as a whole and not just for yourself. Don’t worry what people think about you, do the best job that you can and for the most part everything will work out.
Guild Leader is a weekly series by Beer and Joysticks .com and written by Chris Gillis covering all aspects of being a better guild leader. If you have any questions or comments we welcome them below this article.